Congratulations for having that unwanted pregnancy. Now boom! What are you going to do next?
As premartial sex occur without protection, many unwanted pregnancies result in. Ethics are probed. Important decisions need to be made. In the case of irresponsible adults or couples who cannot handle the idea of having a kid or becoming parents, prominent choice is either to put the child up for adoption or abortion.
I have long realized that this is a much controversial and touchy subject, after receiving harsh comments in my previous blog in Friendster (now gone). I admit that I wrote the post regarding abortion before with solid grounds pro the movement (to ease out poverty issues and distress particularly in the Philippines). Now I aim to take it lighter by offering the option of adoption and asking just some questions which can trigger sthe election of a choice.
Here goes: Abortion versus Adoption
Abortion has been in the "hot seat" for many years in many countries, and it will continue to be debated through centuries to come, I am sure.
If you're in the midst of an unwanted pregnancy and you and/or your "beloved" partner know that nurturing and supporting the child to grow is highly impossble, oftentimes the first thing that comes to mind is to abort the baby (or fetus). Listed are considerations to ponder upon:
- Have you and your partner agreed to undergo the painful operation of abortion?
- Is this something that has been thought through to the fullest extent? Are you ready to give up the life of a child of God for whatever reasons may be?
- Have you consulted their parents, mentors, elders or some professional counselor who can provide reasonable advice?
- Are you prepared for the emotional havoc that this choice is sure to place on your mind later on? Can you handle this child's missed life being on your conscience? Are you prepared for the physical, psychological and emotional pain that will come almost naturally with abortion?
- Have you prepared themselves for arguments that will come (society speaking)?
On the other hand, adoption is the more civil way for parents to do the "right thing" for themselves and their child, as it gives the child a chance to live. That, above all else, is a wonderful thing. Still, there are things to consider before deciding to place the child for adoption:
- Imagine five to ten years from now. Will you going to regret this decision, knowing that your child belongs to someone else? Have you thought into the future?
- What happens if this child finds you and asks WHY? Can you answer with a clear conscience and heart?
- Are you prepared to deal with the emotions that you are sure to fight with after?
- When you find out that your child seeks for you, will you fight for his return? What about the foster parents of the child?
Adoption and abortion--both have their drawbacks. The final conclusion should be carefully made by parents and not just any one. Young men and women should actively participate in family planning programs, cooperate and help governemnts to reduce the numbers of such problems by voluntarlily using copntraceptives. Better yet, unmarried couples should patiently wait until they become accountable enough for their actions before engaging in sex.